Monopoly, Battleship, Connect Four... where do the games end?
as a child, games were more than fun... they were an adventure. games were what i looked forward to playing everyday! hopscotch with the neighbor girl next door, hide and seek, Marco Polo in our swimming pool, the infamous ding-dong-ditching of people's front doors, Pretty Pretty Princess board game, the works! sadly now as i get older, i realize that games are not what they used to be. games only seem to come around now when the sight of love is bubbling to the surface, and i don't mean the fun games either. doesn't matter who, when or where, these so called "games" we have thoughtlessly generated may be entertainment for a hot second, but the reality of it is, these torturous games never end.
as i sit here and deliberate, i reminisce all of the stupid games i have engaged (or haven't engaged) in the past with men. not texting him back, texting him, not calling him, calling him too much, giving him pet names, hitting the sheets, NOT hitting the sheets, telling him i don't like him when i really do, telling him i like him when i really didn't, using him physically or financially... i've done it all and i'm not ashamed to say it. i'm young! i'm growing, i'm learning and ladies, please try to find it within yourselves to admit to all of the games you have or haven't played in the past. you owe it to yourselves for a start fresh!
i'm sitting here reliving my past relationships, flings, one-night stands, duds, all of 'em, and i can say with complete and utter confidence that those silly games didn't work. had they been successful, i would have someone today.
maybe we play games because we are insecure, or afraid of rejection. whatever the reason, we seem to take comfort in knowing that we've got them "hooked" by making them wait a week before talking to us. we take comfort in knowing that the games are the safety net we can fall into in case things get "too serious too quickly" or whatever the case may be. games are simply just an excuse for a power trip.
i have been single now for almost 6 months and i absolutely love it. i'm not stuck in the tangled web of emotional games and my heart is secure once again. sure, i get lonely every once in awhile but who doesn't? we are all human. we weren't created to be alone forever, and i definitely plan on finding a wonderful man someday who isn't stuck in the gamer room. here's an interesting thought... if two people like each other, why not start things off with HONESTY? it just baffles me how we feel that we must resort to retreating away from something we desire, going so far as to pretending that we don't even desire it! boy, when i see something i desire, be it ice cream or a cute pair of shoes, i find a way to get it... period. why should dating be any different?
there is no guarantee that we will all discover that "Notebook" type of romance (and yes, i am referring to the movie... that crap is unreal!) but everyone has a fair chance at a great love story. if we continue to push ourselves into this sick salad of childish games, everyone will end up miserable, desperate and single... oh wait.
as i sit here and deliberate, i reminisce all of the stupid games i have engaged (or haven't engaged) in the past with men. not texting him back, texting him, not calling him, calling him too much, giving him pet names, hitting the sheets, NOT hitting the sheets, telling him i don't like him when i really do, telling him i like him when i really didn't, using him physically or financially... i've done it all and i'm not ashamed to say it. i'm young! i'm growing, i'm learning and ladies, please try to find it within yourselves to admit to all of the games you have or haven't played in the past. you owe it to yourselves for a start fresh!
i'm sitting here reliving my past relationships, flings, one-night stands, duds, all of 'em, and i can say with complete and utter confidence that those silly games didn't work. had they been successful, i would have someone today.
maybe we play games because we are insecure, or afraid of rejection. whatever the reason, we seem to take comfort in knowing that we've got them "hooked" by making them wait a week before talking to us. we take comfort in knowing that the games are the safety net we can fall into in case things get "too serious too quickly" or whatever the case may be. games are simply just an excuse for a power trip.
i have been single now for almost 6 months and i absolutely love it. i'm not stuck in the tangled web of emotional games and my heart is secure once again. sure, i get lonely every once in awhile but who doesn't? we are all human. we weren't created to be alone forever, and i definitely plan on finding a wonderful man someday who isn't stuck in the gamer room. here's an interesting thought... if two people like each other, why not start things off with HONESTY? it just baffles me how we feel that we must resort to retreating away from something we desire, going so far as to pretending that we don't even desire it! boy, when i see something i desire, be it ice cream or a cute pair of shoes, i find a way to get it... period. why should dating be any different?
there is no guarantee that we will all discover that "Notebook" type of romance (and yes, i am referring to the movie... that crap is unreal!) but everyone has a fair chance at a great love story. if we continue to push ourselves into this sick salad of childish games, everyone will end up miserable, desperate and single... oh wait.
Well put!
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