The Necessary Necessity
What is it that makes us NEED love? (Love in particular because it is such an "overlooked" subject.) The NEED to feel joy, acceptance, compassion, peace, unity, all that shit comes with love. We don't just WANT to feel it, we eventually NEED to.
My earlier blog was my discussion of NEED vs. WANT in everyday life. Today, I must decipher the meaning of NEED vs. WANT when it comes to this tragic topic. Not everyone WANTS romantic love, but brothers and sisters, I tell you right now, everyone NEEDS it.
I will be the first to admit that I have been rather pessimistic towards love because of past experiences. I have been in complete and utterly consuming love ONCE in my whole life and I understand and accept the gifts and consequences behind it. Falling in love can definitely be compared to skydiving: You may be too afraid to make the big jump, but once you do, whether you like it or not, you keep falling and falling... and falling. Did I NEED to make that jump? Not at all. I chose to because I WANTED it. I WANTED to feel joy, acceptance, compassion, peace, unity, love. When we NEED something, our immediate instincts have us go and retrieve it, no questions asked; however, when we WANT something, so many flags are raised, questions are born and we eventually forget all about what we WANT, given the circumstances.
I recently vacationed for my very first time in Hawaii and all I have to say was that it was just what I NEEDED. The necessity of being on such a glorious part of the world put me at ultimate ease. That was my NEED. The WANT? Well, do you all remember the timeless old saying, "You can't always get what you want?" Because in my case, it is beyond the truth. I never really knew what or who I wanted but rather always ended up having someone in my life that I believe I needed in order to stay happy and alas, in the end, I sit and stare at this computer screen remembering all of those who didn't WANT or even NEED me. This is not a boo-whoo sentiment, but rather a reflection of my old and new self via past relationships. Conclusion is as follows: I realize that I finally WANT and more importantly, DESERVE a great romance just like anyone else.
I vividly remember, as I sat on my plane right back to the states, how I raised my glass of cheap airplane wine in honor of all of those who currently WANT a love story. You do not NEED to be perfect to be in or find love, you just NEED to be you and know what you WANT. That is the necessary necessity. And get this... if you have the courage to eventually NEED what you WANT, kudos! Don't ever give up. Remember what Christian tells his players in the inspiring Moulin Rouge:
"Love is a many splendid thing, love lifts us up where we belong... all we need is love!"
My earlier blog was my discussion of NEED vs. WANT in everyday life. Today, I must decipher the meaning of NEED vs. WANT when it comes to this tragic topic. Not everyone WANTS romantic love, but brothers and sisters, I tell you right now, everyone NEEDS it.
I will be the first to admit that I have been rather pessimistic towards love because of past experiences. I have been in complete and utterly consuming love ONCE in my whole life and I understand and accept the gifts and consequences behind it. Falling in love can definitely be compared to skydiving: You may be too afraid to make the big jump, but once you do, whether you like it or not, you keep falling and falling... and falling. Did I NEED to make that jump? Not at all. I chose to because I WANTED it. I WANTED to feel joy, acceptance, compassion, peace, unity, love. When we NEED something, our immediate instincts have us go and retrieve it, no questions asked; however, when we WANT something, so many flags are raised, questions are born and we eventually forget all about what we WANT, given the circumstances.
I recently vacationed for my very first time in Hawaii and all I have to say was that it was just what I NEEDED. The necessity of being on such a glorious part of the world put me at ultimate ease. That was my NEED. The WANT? Well, do you all remember the timeless old saying, "You can't always get what you want?" Because in my case, it is beyond the truth. I never really knew what or who I wanted but rather always ended up having someone in my life that I believe I needed in order to stay happy and alas, in the end, I sit and stare at this computer screen remembering all of those who didn't WANT or even NEED me. This is not a boo-whoo sentiment, but rather a reflection of my old and new self via past relationships. Conclusion is as follows: I realize that I finally WANT and more importantly, DESERVE a great romance just like anyone else.
I vividly remember, as I sat on my plane right back to the states, how I raised my glass of cheap airplane wine in honor of all of those who currently WANT a love story. You do not NEED to be perfect to be in or find love, you just NEED to be you and know what you WANT. That is the necessary necessity. And get this... if you have the courage to eventually NEED what you WANT, kudos! Don't ever give up. Remember what Christian tells his players in the inspiring Moulin Rouge:
"Love is a many splendid thing, love lifts us up where we belong... all we need is love!"
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